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Do you need to talk to someone right now? Do you feel alone and lost? You can feel isolated at a party, at work, or even out with friends. When everyone else seems to have an outlet, you desperately need to find yours.

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When you're suffering, it's natural to want to talk to someone about your problems. Everyone needs a listening ear sometimes.


This is a space to people to talk to questions, share experiences and support each other. Find a relevant thread or start your own! Before you can post or reply in these forums, please our online community and have a read of the community rules. Forum membership is open to anyone residing in Australia. I have a lot of negative feeling recently. I just would like to talk about it and throw everything out when no one judges me So let me start. I am upset about what I did in the past.

I am a perfectionist. Now I am thinking if I did this and that, or not to do this and that in the past, then I might be a better person now.

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I might be more attractive, I might have more friends. I might be more successful. There might be less people who dislike me Secondly, I am a weird person.

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I will be upset and hopefully they can like me eventually. I understand that I should not waste time on those people but I should spend more time and effort in maintaining a health relationship with close friendsI cannot as I am not interested in the relationship once the relationship is well established.

To me, I feel like it is a challenge to get everyone likes me. When they like me, I think mission is completed and let me move on. Thirdly, I like to compare with people to talk to. I wonder why others have what I do not have. They are prettier, they are more attractive, they have more friends. They have a wealth family. Their grade is better.

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They have a better job. It upsets me when I start comparing but I cannot stop!

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I hate myself being a person like this. Thank you everyone for listening to me. I do not have big issue.

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But it is really much appreciated to talk about all of these horrible thinking without being judged by anyone. This is definitely a place you can come and not worry about being judged. Your issue may not be 'big' compared to other people, but if it's upsetting you then it is important.

You sound like someone who analyses every aspect of your life thoroughly so that you can strive for perfection. You sound goal-oriented and driven.

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You are ambitious. I don't see anything about you that you should hate. You are right.

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I like to analyses every aspect and make sure I wont make mistake in the future. I have a lot of "what if", "what about" and "if it happens" Therefore, I am always worried and unhappy.

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It affects me and my relationship with family. How can I change. I have these thoughts as well. There's always a voice asking me "what if" for pretty much everything I do. Like you, I also used to be a perfectionist. I wanted to be "the best". One lesson I've learnt over the years is that no one can be perfect.

We all are unique in our own way, and what's important is for us to be comfortable in our own skins.

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I began to realise that the more authentic I was as a person, the freer I was with just owning who I was flaws and allthe need to be better than others became less. As for the voice that asks you "what if", you can't stop your thoughts.

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But it's in your power to ensure you react to it in a way that reduces your anxiety. In my case, I usually ask myself "so what? And then I'd tell myself to have faith that things will work out somehow now too. It's also good to distract yourself from your worries by doing something that calms you. Doing art for instance, or jogging.

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It won't be an instant change, J, but chip away at it slowly and you will get there. Don't lose hope.

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Another method that has worked for me that maybe you could try is writing a list of negative thoughts you have and combating them with positive thoughts e e. Sometimes I am extreme to the point that I would like family members in my family to be perfect too. And I also feel negative about how my friends have a better life because they are luckier and make me envy.

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I know it is a horrible feeling and I should not see it this way. But I cannot control. I want to be better than others. Hi JoC18, I hope you have taken some of this advice on board but if you feel like people to talk to are still struggling I thought I would mention some things that help me when I am feeling the way you have mentioned. When you mentioned that sometimes to you just want to talk to relieve the negativity but you are just told that you are wrong, I wonder if the people you are talking to are trying to let you know that they feel differently about what you are saying and that they appreciate you for all that you are.

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I understand it would be frustrating to hear that your thoughts are wrong as it can make you feel like your feelings are invalid. It might benefit you to tell them that when they say that to you, you feel even more upset.

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And from there you can try to have an open conversation about what they actually mean when they say this to you. A people to talk to tip that might help give you confidence to be more open is to ask yourself these questions when you notice yourself talking negatively. Something I find helps me is reframing negative things I say to myself. So for example when I catch myself thinking "I'm so dumb I got such a bad grade", I will stop and pause and think "I wish I did better on that asment, but I did my best".

Or I will challenge this original thought and say "What would I say to a friend in this situation" and then I will say that to myself. I might even talk to a trusted friend and tell them that I'm feeling really down about the situation. They will then often remind me that there are different factors to consider in the situation.

So say I didn't spend as long as I could have on the asment and trick myself into thinking 'well I didn't actually try my best', I might need to consider what else was going on in my life at the time and remember that I did my best with what resources were available to me at the time, for example only leaving myself 1 or 2 hours to finish it because I felt too exhausted leading up to it to start sooner.

When it comes to comparing yourself to others, something that I do when I find myself doing this is to list 5 things that I am and I try to make it about my personality, for example resilient or thoughtful. There are so many good things about each individual person including you and just like you see the positives in others you will benefit from pointing out the good things in yourself, to yourself.

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Complete your profile the online community Community rules. Cancel The title field is required! So let me start I am upset about what I did in the past. Regards J. I hope you keep posting, Jess. Emmen Champion Alumni. Hello J, You sound like someone who analyses every aspect of your life thoroughly so that you can strive for perfection.

Keep sharing and talking these things through. You will not be judged here : Warm wishes, Emmen.

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